When we are faced with those moments where life seems to flash before us, due to an accident, sickness or natural disaster, we are then forced to acknowledge what’s truly important to us. Sometimes these moments help us realize just how important time is – and we should not waste a moment of it.
Here are some things to consider, that I’ve been examining in my own life and what other high-achieving women have shared with me:
- Negative thinking about your current situation.– Life is like a mirror; we get the best results when we smile. Talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some struggles to get there.
- Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made.– It’s okay if you mess up; that’s how you get to become wise. Achieving great things take time. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses.
Decide now that the negative experiences from your past won’t predict your future.
- Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people.– Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations and share life’s good experiences. Count your mutual blessings. Let go for a little while and just BE together.
- Buying into everyone else’s definition of success and happiness.– You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. Figure out what works for you.
- Succumbing to compulsive busyness.– Schedule time every day to not be busy. Have dedicated downtime – clear time in the day to reflect, rest, and recharge. Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity.
- Having close-minded judgments.– Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t hate what you don’t know. The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed.
- Allow others to use or manipulate you.– What you allow is what will continue. Give as much as you can, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others closely, but don’t lose your own voice in the process.
- Having regrets of any kind.– You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened. Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present.
- Comparing yourself to everyone else.– Social comparison is the thief of happiness. You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything. Find your happiness based on who you are and not what someone else has.
- Traveling a life path that doesn’t feel right.– Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays. Success in life is for those who are excited about where they are going. It’s about walking comfortably in your own shoes, in the direction of your own dreams and not someone else’s.
- Wanting things that you don’t have.– No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this: There are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. The things you take for granted, someone else is praying to have.
- Living in the past.– You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop – that is what life is all about – enjoy the journey.
- Worrying about what others think and say about you.– Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.
Remember to have growth, success and acceleration, you must remember the things to stop wasting time on. Stay tuned for part 2.
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