In part 1 of High-Achieving Women: Things To Stop Wasting Time On, I indicated that I have worked with high-achieving women and women in leadership for over fifteen years. I have developed quite a list of things to stop wasting time on.
Below is the remainder of my list of things to stop wasting time on:
- Self-deception.– Your life will improve only when you take small chances. The first and most difficult chance you can take is to be honest with yourself.
- Trying to impress others.– One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK (but do not hate anyone – that’s a problem). No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.
- Other people’s mistakes and oversights.– Today, be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human.
- Letting your fears hold you back.– Fear is a feeling, not a fact. The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to do what you’re afraid to do. Dare to change and grow. In the end, there is only one thing that makes a dream completely impossible to achieve: It’s lack of action based on the fear of possible failure.
- Doubting and second-guessing yourself.– When in doubt just take the next small step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.
- Allowing people to continuously dump on your dreams.– It’s better to be lonely than to allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny. Don’t let others crush your dreams. Do just once what they said you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their negativity again.
- Thinking that the perfect time will come.– You can’t always wait for the perfect moment. Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.
- Applying band-aids and temporary fixes.– You can’t change what you refuse to confront. You can’t find peace by avoiding things. Deal with problems directly before they deal with your happiness and well-being.
- Overall resentment.– Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.
- Any and all hateful thoughts– Set an example. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. Make kindness a daily ritual; its most fulfilling long term and it brings about perfect peace.
- Every point in time other than right now.– Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living.
- The needless drama around you.– Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see.
Truth be told, the most important decision you will ever make is what you do with the time that is given to you. So let’s revisit the question I proposed in the intro: What Things To Stop Wasting Time On?
Remember to have growth, success and acceleration; you must remember the things to stop wasting time on.
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